Finding Your Tribe Abroad

One of the greatest joys of international living is the opportunity to forge connections with people from different cultures, to build friendships that transcend borders and enrich our understanding of the world. But let’s be honest, creating a sense of belonging in a new land can also be one of the most daunting challenges.

When you’re surrounded by unfamiliar customs, languages, and social norms, it’s easy to feel like an outsider, adrift in a sea of unfamiliarity. But here’s the key: connection is a fundamental human need, regardless of where we are in the world. And with a bit of effort and an open heart, you can find your tribe abroad and create a sense of community in your new home.

For us, music has always been a powerful bridge between cultures. It’s a universal language that speaks to the soul, bypassing the barriers of language and custom. Throughout our travels, we’ve discovered that our shared love of American roots music – old time, bluegrass, folk, blues and jazz  – has been an instant passport to connection and camaraderie.

We’ve joined jam sessions in cozy Irish pubs, where the lively strains of fiddles and banjos filled the air with warmth and laughter. We’ve sung harmonies with fellow travelers in living rooms, community centers and festivals across Europe, our voices blending together in a chorus of shared experience. We’ve even learned traditional folk songs from local musicians in Japan, our fingers translating their melodies onto our Western instruments.

These musical encounters have not only enriched our travels but also led to enduring friendships. We’ve shared meals, stories, and laughter with fellow musicians from all walks of life, creating a sense of belonging wherever we go.

But finding your tribe abroad isn’t just about shared interests. It’s about being open to new experiences, stepping outside your comfort zone, and embracing the diversity of human connection.

Here are a few tips that have helped us along the way:

• Be curious and approachable: Show genuine interest in the people you meet, ask questions, and be willing to share your own story. A warm smile and an open demeanor can work wonders in breaking down cultural barriers.
• Seek out common ground: Look for shared interests, whether it’s music, sports, hobbies, or simply a love of good food and conversation. Common ground can be a fertile starting point for cultivating deeper connections.
• Join local groups and activities: Participate in activities that pique your interest, whether it’s a language exchange, a cooking class, a sports club, or a volunteer organization. These are fantastic ways to meet people with shared interests and build a sense of community.
• Be patient and persistent: Building meaningful connections takes time and effort. Don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t happen overnight. Keep putting yourself out there, and eventually, you’ll find your tribe.
• Embrace the diversity of connection: Don’t limit yourself to people who are just like you. Embrace the richness and diversity of human experience, and you’ll find that connection can come in many forms.

Finding your tribe abroad is a journey of discovery, both of the world around you and of yourself. So, open your heart, embrace the unknown, and let the music of connection guide you. You might be surprised at the connections you make.